Expectations from a Mom Versus a Dad
By Jennifer O'Shea
Although everyone keeps saying that men and women are equal but when it comes to parenting and expectations in the home, they are not equal. A mom has more responsibility than the dad. A child relies on a mom for pretty much everything until they get to an age of 3 where they can start to get things for themselves. However, kids don’t turn self-sufficient until around 5 or 6. They can pretty much survive the day without needing you every step of the way. Mom is usually the go to.
The role of women in the past used to be that they were to stay at home and take care of the children. That was their sole purpose – have children and raise them. Fast forward to 2018 – this has changed drastically, but you would be surprised with how many men still believe that in the back of their minds that women are supposed to do all things for the children and then have dinner on the table when they get home from work.
Families with both working parents, there should be some compromise in the way that the family is run. Many working moms are expected not only to take care of the children when they get home but to also have dinner on the table. So not only are we placing that same thought process from the 1800s on the table but now we have added working all day too! More times than not the working father is sitting down and watching tv while the working mother is making dinner. The expectation is still that the mother is the one answering the children’s questions and cooking.
Similar to working moms, stay at home moms are also holding this view that they should be in charge of everything. Yes, they are home with the children all day, yes, the husband is probably tired when they come home, but mom is tired too! There are a lot of expectations from moms, especially if they are stay at home.
A woman’s role in life has changed drastically and now that we are in 2018, it is time to start thinking and believing in that. It is not just the role of women to raise the children – working or not. If there are two adult humans involved in a child’s life living under the same roof, then both people, man or woman, are responsible for that child. That is something we should be working on in 2018 – making sure that women are not always responsible for doing everything to care for our children. Moms need a couch break too.
Jennifer is a freelance writer, motherhood + lifestyle blogger over at Teach.Workout.Love, military wife, a mom to a nutty 3-year-old, and a National Board Certified Teacher. She lives in Washington State, USA. In her spare time, she loves traveling, yoga, fitness and everything organic.