Two people with insecure attachment styles pushing one another away with defense mechanisms already built in childhood
By Dr. Jennifer Wolkin
Two people with insecure attachment styles pushing
one another away with defense mechanisms already
built in childhood
We slid headfirst from amniotic sacs
into masonry school where lessons on
fear: of love’s dark-side, of loss—the painful
counterpart to intimacy—
were sipped through
bottles & breast milk.
We graduated to observational studies
& saw others pick up shovels of shit-
We learned to replace wounds with pounds of
cement—to run away, blindfolded & backwards
to seal each hole
in the heart
like a coffin
with no cracks for
to seep in & soften.
We learned to cure our fear of abandonment
by hardening & hiding, first our selves from
& then, brutally, from
My name is Jen. I’m a health and neuro psychologist, speaker, mental health advocate, and mindfulness-meditation practitioner. I just started my MFA in creative writing and literary translation at Queens College. I have recently been published/forthcoming in Third Point Press, Streetlight Press, Sooth Swarm Journal, A Beautiful Space, British Journal of Medical Practitioners, Flypaper, Ars Medica, theSame, Black Fox Literary Magazine, Unbroken, and others.
My non-fiction work translating and sharing the science of brain research and mindfulness has been published in Thrive Global, The Huffington Post, Mindful.org, PsychCentral among others. They are compiled and can be found on my blog BrainCurves.com.